Truth is, knowing how to build community and create great events is such a valuable skill in the “tool belt” of connection and relationship. It allows you to draw the quality of people and relationships you really want into your life and quite honestly, without quality people and relationships in your life… it’s a pretty “janky” ride.
So, I want to connect a few dots together for you so you can see how to make it a joyous ride.
Most people don’t really know why the Dead Sea in Israel is “dead”. Do you?
It’s because the Jordan River and a few other water sources flow into it but… since it’s a Cul De Sac (a dead end) and at one of the lowest spots in the world, nothing flows out of it. So, as the water evaporates it leaves behind such high levels of salt deposits that nothing can live in it.
The Dead Sea consumes the life that flows into it without contributing anything toward the fostering of more life. However, if the Dead Sea had an outlet for the water/life that comes into it to flow onward, then it would be constantly refreshing itself and life would be able to thrive.
Now, most of us know someone who is a “Dead Sea” (a consumer).
Meaning, they show up to receive things for themselves but don’t really offer anything to people or the environment in return. These people don’t tend to get invited to a lot of parties because they don’t “contribute” to the space in a way that people feel good about (that’s why it’s always nice, at the very least, to bring something with you when you go to a party).
But when you are a contribution to community, connection, fun and relationships then you get more of that for yourself. There is a natural law of nature here and it’s simply this:
The more life we give, the more life we get.
Ok, now stick with me here as I throw down one more “dot” before I show you how it all connects up together.
This is where the concept of Tithing comes in. Yeah… Tithing (rhymes with “thriving”). It has its roots in Christianity but don’t look at it in terms of religion. It’s a practice of giving away a small percentage of your income to charity.
Modern day “thought leaders in finance” really understand this concept. What they are teaching is that when people create an outlet for the flow of money that comes into their life, it actually creates more money! If it all flows into a bank account where it sits with nowhere to contribute (even in a small way) then you’re literally creating a “Dead Sea” situation right in the middle of your financial life!
But I’m not talking about “financial tithing” here.
I’m talking about “social tithing”.
Because when you socially “tithe” you socially “thrive”.
It’s about finding fun, creative ways to foster community, connection and relationships for others so that you draw more community, connection and relationships into your own life.
That’s literally how nature works, so why work against yourself?
The best way to go about this is to come up with what most excites you and offer that as a way of contributing to other people.
Years ago when I first arrived in San Francisco I didn’t know many people and I was kinda lonely. (Ok, I was really lonely.)
I remember one day hearing about this fantastic beach bonfire party that had happened just a few days before, over the weekend. I hadn’t been invited and I was completely heartbroken. I had always wanted to go to a party like that and I felt like I had missed out on exactly the kind of thing that I deeply wanted to be a part of.
Then I realized that I needed to start throwing the kind of parties I had always wanted to go to… and invite people to those. So, I threw my own beach bonfire party and it was fantastic!
When we follow our highest excitement towards doing the things that really call to us AND invite people to join us we being a contribution to them in a way that also contributes to us. As a result we create more life for us and more life for them which also creates more life for us and everybody wins.
Because life begets life.
And once you get good at it you can create more and more exquisite gatherings.
Want to hear some really fun thoughts about how to do this? I hope you check out this new episode, because it’s full of great fun ideas for breathing new life into your world, contributing to other people’s lives and having a total blast doing it.
You can listen to it right HERE.
Tithe to thrive,
P.S. Here’s the simplest little tip that can be a total life-exploding-game-changer for you. If you’ve never done this before I HIGHLY recommend it. Next time you go to a party in someone’s home, take 20 minutes to go into the kitchen and wash their dishes. Yep, that’s it. Even if they never know you did it, that’s just fine.
It’s a simple, fun way to be a beautiful contribution. It’s also a great gift to a host to have someone care for their environment and reduce their work. And… the host and other party go-ers may just express appreciation and gratitude for your thoughtfulness. Let me know how it goes.