It wasn’t the concept itself that had my drop jaw in surprise. It was the way she embodied the word “FUCK” as she spoke it. I could feel the weight of her words land in my body the way a cinder block dropped off a boat enters the water. Solid, heavy and with a shameless surrender to gravity.
Women can feel in their bodies when a man brings his empowered sexuality to an interaction. It creates an instant polarity the same way you can feel the tension between two oppositely charged magnets as they are being naturally drawn together. And… it’s important to understand that this can all happen without touching, speaking or even implying anything sexual.
Listen, I understand that this can all come across as a bit abstract. Even for me there was a time where concepts like this felt like someone was pointing to a forest in the distance and saying, “Do you see that leaf on, second branch of the third tree from the center?” So, if this isn’t completely clear for you just yet, don’t worry. You’re designed by nature to be able to do this, so just stick with it and it will eventually come into focus.
This whole article can be summed up by saying that the most critical misunderstanding guys have is in the difference between “projecting” and “containing”.
For a lot of guys, when they feel “turn-on” around women and don’t know what to do with the intensity of the sensations they feel… they’ll project that energy outward. It most commonly manifests in the form of “staring”.
*Ok, now pause – In order for you to really get this concept (and pretty much all the most important ones) you just have to accept that WOMEN CAN FEEL YOU. They can feel you the way a deer can feel a predator coming through the high grass of the Safari… long before that unfortunate tourist enjoying his lunch ever will.
If you accept this as a fact of nature, your relationships with women will start making a lot more sense. OK? – now unpause.
Imagine you had a pair of saloon bar doors in front of you. When your desire is moving outward toward a woman (as if through saloon bar doors) then you feel vacant, like a hungry dog whose mind can only focus on getting fed.
That’s projecting / staring / gawking.
Just as a movie projector casts all its light outward through a lens, you’re doing the same thing through your eyes. Women don’t like it when a man is projecting / staring because it communicates to them that he doesn’t have the inner strength, stamina or awareness to contain his sensations. Thus, he often feels empty and lecherous to women. That is the antithesis of sexy.
When a man “contains” that sensation instead of “projecting” it, he becomes naturally radiant to women. This is super-attractive because a man’s body is quite literally communicating to her body that he has the inner strength, stamina and awareness to “contain and radiate his power”.
There is a big difference between staring and noticing.
Men “notice” women when their energy is contained.
Men “stare” at women when their energy is not contained.
Imagine a movie projector that didn’t beam light outward through a lens but instead contained it all inside. If that were the case you’d probably see light emanating from within every crack and opening in the surface of the structure.
So, as my radiant guest in this episode so beautifully put it, when a man really “Owns his fuck,” instead of projecting it, he feels powerful to women. Just as a nuclear power plant creates a massive amount of energy and contains it inside, a man who “owns his fuck” also creates a massive amount of energy, contains it and then chooses where he wants to use it to empower his life.
And yes, women are deeply impacted by men who can do this.
In fact, a woman will pick up whatever energy is vibrating in a man’s body the same way a tuning fork at rest will pick up on the resonance of another vibrating tuning fork. This is simple science.
For this reason, when a man is “owning (containing) his fuck” a woman feels her own “sexual energy” activate. And assuming he is also safe and respectful, her body may respond by saying, “Wow, he feels good in a way that has me feel feminine and sexually alive. I want more of this.”
Women often feel disappointed when men can’t handle/contain/own the energy of their own “fuck” because women intuitively know that if you can’t handle your “fuck” then you certainly can’t handle hers.
So, here’s how you learn to handle it.
Start to experiment with this by feeling the sensations of attraction, lust, desire, turn-on inside of you and choosing to enjoy them. Relish them.
Relate to these sensations
as a gift from women
because when you really think about it
and really get down to the truth of the matter,
this is the only way
for you to actually find your power.
See how deeply and fully you can experience these sensations while keeping your attention on yourself. The more you do this the more you begin to welcome the energy of “fuck” instead of closing down to it or projecting it out of you because it’s too intense for you to contain.
This means learning to trust the intelligence of your body more than the stories in your mind. You’re literally developing a muscle… and the weights you are lifting are simply in the form of “feelings and sensations.”
Even for myself, this is a continual work in progress. When a man becomes comfortable with his own sexual power it has a woman feel more permission to “own” and express their sexual power. And believe me, you want that.
We are sexual beings by nature. Otherwise you wouldn’t see sexy people on billboards, commercials, movies and magazines all over the world. Advertising has inevitably learned that it can use our sexual nature to intrigue our attention. Simple as that.
When a woman can feel that a man “owns his fuck” in her presence it creates a positive tension between the two. This is surprisingly rare for most women because even though advertising and media capitalizes on sexual images, society has taught us to repress that sexual energy. Which is also why it’s not your fault that the visceral experience of “owning your fuck” may seem abstract to you as a man.
There’s a whole journey for a man (or a woman) to go on here but the more you come into your sexual embodiment the more all of this makes sense. This is what it means to feel sexually empowered. It can be scary to own that energy because we come from thousands of years of being persecuted for it by history (and in many places people still are).
And… do you get that this where everything is headed?
It’s brave and it’s super sexy and in this episode you’ll hear how my guest owns it for herself.
And… here’s the big kicker! It’s not necessarily even about sex! In fact, it transcends sex!
It’s really about being a man who is connected with his primal sense of self. It’s about being a man who knows himself and can allow his animal body to respond to the feminine and let that speak louder than any physical action he could take.
Women are often deeply impacted in the presence of a man who really gets this.
We’ve been so lead away from our true primal natural and now we’re starting to make the brave choices of finding our way back there. We’ve so been up against the story of “Don’t go there. Don’t go there,” and now people are finally starting to ask, “Well, what happens if I do?”
What say we find out?
Follow this link and listen in for yourself about The Single Most Impressive F’ing Thing To Women.
P.S. Remember, this has NOTHING to do with how you look! A radio tower may be ugly as hell but it still puts out a signal that has people want to dance, sing and make love. What’s the signal you’re putting out?
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